Human beings have been taught to chase attraction. There is even “spiritual”, new age teachings around attraction meaning we just met our soul mate! or making up these stories that most of the time aren’t true.

When we are operating from wounding, from deep samskaras running in our energetics, those same patterns keep drawing situations toward us over and over again. And they will keep coming until we learn the lesson, heal the wound, tend to all the inner children, reclaim all the aspects of our soul across time and space, and rise above the lower tendencies of human conditioning.

We speak of chemistry as if it were destiny, butterflies as if they were truth and longing as if it were love. We chase the spark, pursue the fantasy and believe that the intensity we feel is evidence that we have found “the one.” 

Yet from the perspective of higher consciousness, attraction is not always guidance. Sometimes it is simply energetics matching and if you still have healing work it will be a perfect match for you to play out specific karmas of the soul.

What I normally see in my session work if someone is constantly moving from one person to the other and can not be in a partnership is a lot of scattered energy. The person normally lives in a pendulum swing of being really good or really bad. Which is also how you know you’re playing out karma because your physical reality is not stabilized, you’re not in a flow state, there is more effort to manifest.  

Sometimes it’s simply one trying to fill a void by putting all their attention on something outside themself. What is the soul really looking for? What ways are you avoiding a wound and bypassing it not just through chasing men or woman but even through drinking alcohol, addictions, scrolling social media for way to long and so on…

The body remembers what the soul has not yet healed.

Many people do not realize that attraction often arises from old patterns, unfinished emotional experiences and wounds seeking completion. The nervous system is drawn toward what is familiar, not necessarily what is peaceful. A person may feel intensely attracted to someone who mirrors abandonment, inconsistency, or emotional distance: not by coincidence, but because a deeper intelligence within is seeking awareness and resolution. As a soul you came to transcend your karma: learn the lessons and become a master on this earth plane. 

This is why chemistry can be intoxicating. The body mistakes familiarity for love.

The ancient sages understood that desire itself is not the problem. Unconscious desire is.

When attraction is followed blindly, or from lust, greed, or any of the vices, without awareness, it creates karma. Karma is not punishment. Karma is repetition. It is the tendency to recreate experiences until wisdom arises.

The mind says, “This person completes me.”

The soul asks, “What within me feels incomplete?”

The mind says, “I must have them.”

The soul asks, “What am I trying to avoid feeling right now?”

The mind chases.

The soul witnesses.

Every attachment contains a lesson. Every longing contains a message. Every attraction points toward something within ourselves that is asking to be seen.

Masters learn in silence, one begins to observe desire rather than obey it. One learns to sit with the voidal point wanting that attention and ask what is underneath it instead of rushing to satisfy it. In that sacred pause, something remarkable happens.

The planetary and ancestral spell begins to dissolve.

You begin to see that many attractions are not invitations to possess another but invitations to reclaim yourself, go deeper into your unconscious wounds. 

Perhaps what attracted you was their confidence because you have abandoned your own.

Perhaps it was their freedom because you have forgotten how to trust life. or need to remember your soul can live in that freedom too, whether its financial or lifestyle. 

Perhaps it was their love because you have yet to discover the infinite love already residing within your own heart and awaken to Gods love within. That is the only love that will truly satisfy you. 

This does not mean relationships are unnecessary. It means relationships become sacred when they arise from wholeness rather than hunger. That is the only way to enter sacred union. 

If you still have lower desires playing out; lust, greed, overindulgence, laziness, resentment, arrogance you can not be in sacred union because you are not whole within and to be in true sacred union wholeness is created by embodying the virtues. 

Love born from wounds says:

“Save me.”

Love born from consciousness says:

“I am already whole, and I choose to walk beside you.”

There is a great difference.

One creates karma.

The other creates harmony and destiny. 

For attraction often follows the path of our core wounds.

The one who fears abandonment may be irresistibly drawn toward those who are unavailable, not because it is their destiny to be together, but because the soul longs to finally heal the ache of being left.

The one who never felt seen may become enchanted by the charismatic or withholding partner, hoping at last to be chosen and recognized.

The one who learned to earn love through performance may feel addicted to intermittent affection, mistaking breadcrumbs for devotion.

The one who fears rejection may unconsciously seek criticism and distance, believing love must be struggled for.

The one who lacked nurturing may become the rescuer, forever pouring themselves into others while forgetting to receive.

The person chasing attraction to attraction is not recognizing the deep voidal point, they are too busy running from it. 

These are karmic points and invitations to your soul to go deeper and we are stepping into the time for humanity to understand this. 

Karma is simply repetition until consciousness dawns.

And so life, in its infinite compassion, presents us with similar lessons again and again until we are no longer moved by unconscious hunger.

This is why the spiritual path is not one of repression, but of mastery.

The monk does not transcend desire because desire is evil.

The monk and sage transcends desire because they are no longer enslaved by it. They are not bound by lower desires, earth desires and are completely whole within themselves: self sourced from the sun, self sourced from the one 🙂

AKA not needing any human to fulfill any of there desires! If we really understood this RELATIONSHIPS WOULD LAST. For relationships to last it is important to set up  a virtuous/ satvic life, out of the small self.

Otherwise the small selves just fight. The higher selves just create and live a life of dharma.

The greatest spiritual masters were not free because they had no desires. They were free because they were no longer bound by them. The invisible shackles were broken (as these wounds actually hold density in the auric field.) They became witnesses instead of prisoners. They understood that every person who entered their life was either a companion, a teacher, or a mirror not someone they needed something from, not someone they even need to save. 

And so perhaps your task is not to chase attraction.

Perhaps your task is to become so deeply rooted in your own being that attraction loses its power to control you.

Become the one who listens inward before reaching outward.

Become the one who sits with longing until its wisdom is revealed. 

Become the one who chooses peace over intensity, truth over fantasy and consciousness over compulsion.

For what is meant for your soul does not require chasing.

It requires presence and alignment. 

And when the inner work is done, love no longer arrives as a storm. It doesn’t need to be this battle or up and downs. 

It arrives as recognition.

Not as a wound seeking relief.

But as two beings meeting in freedom.

And from that freedom, something holy is born.

If you find yourself chasing attraction and in similar patterns in romantic relationships, let’s go to the depth to heal what is no longer serving. As you clear it, you clear it not only for you but your ancestral line, society…its time we become solid beacons of light and we can not have these densities in our auric field if we want to live a peaceful life. For the patterns will return again and again because you have a frequency match, a karmic loop that is open: transmute the karmic samsara and return to wholeness.